‘Do I Tell A Prospective Employer I’m Blind Before An Interview?’

A pair of sunglasses on a white desk next to a keyboard and mouse.Once I settled in after transferring colleges, I decided it was time to apply for a job. 

Despite some accessibility issues with the application, I was able to apply for a job I thought I was well qualified for. A week went by with no word, but I was so busy with schoolwork that week that I actually forgot about it.

I received a phone call the next week, but when I didn’t recognize the number that came up on the caller ID, I didn’t answer. I checked the voicemail they left me, though, and when I found it was from the place where I had recently applied, I immediately called them back.

The person on the phone told me that they got my voicemail and asked if I was still interested in the job. I said I was. They discussed the number of hours and where they were located.

While we conversed, I noticed they didn’t sound very pleasant, almost annoyed or bored like they didn’t actually want to be talking to me. But I ignored that, because I really did want this job. I went along with it, but I did secretly hope this wouldn’t be the person doing the interview.

After the interview was set up, I was overjoyed. I was also nervous, though, because there was a pressing issue that was nagging at me: Do I tell the employer that I’m blind? If I were to tell them, they’d know ahead of time and could think about accommodations, if there needed to be any. They could also jump to the conclusion that I was incapable of doing the job before even having met me. What to do?

Finding a job can be a problem for people who are blind or visually impaired. The American Federation of the Blind reports that 75 percent of the estimated 4 million adults in the U.S. who are blind or visually impaired are not in the labor force.

I had asked my boyfriend for his input, as well as a few of my friends that are also blind. I wanted to gain their perspective. They all said that ultimately, it was up to me. This didn’t help! For some reason, I wanted someone to tell me exactly what to do. When I told my parents about the interview, I asked them the same thing, and they gave me the same answer. So I finally decided on my own: I wasn’t going to tell them.

The day before the interview, I received a call from the same person saying a snowstorm was on the way. They’d already been informed that my university would be closing the next day, so we needed to reschedule the interview.

So, we rescheduled it for February 13th. That gave me four days to prepare, but also an extra four days to just wait. I’m not good at waiting.

Stay tuned for part two of Ali’s story, where she shares her interview experience!

 

“How Do You Know Your Service Dog is Sitting?”

Photo of Beth and Whitney in front of fifth graders.

The fifth graders at Glen Grove school.

Early last month we published a post I wrote about a trip my Seeing Eye dog and I were taking to a school in the Chicago suburbs. The fifth graders we were visiting that day at Glen Grove Elementary are working with the Nora Project. They’ve already been paired with a student who has special needs, and now these ten and eleven-year olds seem excited – yet understandably nervous – to start interviewing their buddy’s family members and others who spend time with their buddy outside of school. As a writer/journalist who has conducted hundreds of interviews, I was there to answer their questions and quell their nerves.

These students will be using iPads to record video of the interviews they do. Soon they’ll combine footage from the interviews with video of their own interactions with their buddies. The documentaries they create from all this footage will be presented at an assembly towards the end of the school year.

The only way I know to explain how their curiosity about my blindness intertwined with their concerns about the upcoming interviews is to look over some of the questions they asked during the Q&A part of my presentation:

  • You say in your Safe & Sound book that you take your dog’s harness off when you get home. How do you get around your house by yourself?
  • What would be the best questions to ask to get the best answers from the Nora Project parents?
  • You can’t see, so what sense do you rely on the most?
  • If you tell your dog to sit, and you can’t see the dog, how do you know it’s sitting?
  • What did it feel like when you found out you were blind?
  • You and your husband were both working when you found out you were blind, and then they fired you, so what was that like with money?
  • How do you know what you’re wearing?
  • How can we ask questions to get long answers?
  • Do you remember what your childhood was like?
  • What do you do if someone answers your question wrong?
  • If you were never blinded, which would you rather be: a cat person, or a dog person?
  • When you’re asking somebody something, how can you tell if the question is a rude question or a curious question?
  • You look great in that shirt!

That last one was a statement, not a question, but I didn’t correct the student who said it. I just thanked him…and blushed. I absolutely love this Nora Project. Playing a very small part of it during that visit earlier this month was an honor.

To learn more about the Nora Project, visit thenoraproject.ngo. Documentaries produced by students from previous years are available there under the Nora Friends tab.

 

Review: ‘Sensing the Rhythm’ by America’s Got Talent Star, Mandy Harvey

North American music fans know Mandy Harvey from her stunning appearance on America’s Got Talent. The 19-year-old was pursuing a music career when a rapid decrease in her hearing left her completely deaf. Her memoir, Sensing the Rhythm, was recently reviewed on a blog called Life Unscripted: Life as I See it…or Don’t.

I’ve always appreciated the way Life Unscripted reviews books about disabilities, and when I asked if we could publish an excerpt here, they generously said yes. I hope you’ll read to the very end — the final line says it all.

Sensing the Rhythm: Finding My Voice in a World Without Sound

By: Mandy Harvey and Mark Attberry

The book cover of Mandy Harvey's 'Sensing the Rhythm'The publisher of Sensing the Rhythm summarizes Mandy Harvey’s memoir as “a deeply moving story about Mandy’s journey through profound loss, how she found hope and meaning in the face of adversity, and how she discovered a new sense of passion and joy.” Even though the publisher’s summary talks a lot about inspiration and overcoming adversity, I found this short book more approachable and relatable than I expected to.

Initial Impressions

I chose to listen to this book in audio format, narrated by Mandy herself. Mandy’s narration lends additional warmth to her breezy, accessible style of writing. I was immediately transported to an unforgetable performance where, without words, all musicians knew exactly where to be and what to do.

We are taken on Mandy’s journey with her – from the rapid decrease in her hearing to her time of depression to her discovery that she could still sense the rhythm of music. I laughed and cried with Mandy, and some portions of her journey really made me think. I found this short book more approachable and relatable than I expected to.

Disability Identity

Mandy chooses to communicate using sign language, something she thought was important to use during her performance. Her deafness is as much a part of herself as her musicianship, and I found myself feeling a complicated sense of sorrow and frustration when Mandy relates her experiences in early college as her hearing loss was progressing. She asked for an accommodation to learn an assignment and was denied that request.

When students stood up for her, she admitted feeling like a burden, feeling uncomfortable, feeling like her hearing loss made her stand out. I found myself relating to and frustrated by her feelings of her disability experience and the reactions of those around her.

More than Disability

Yes, Mandy is deaf, and yes, she’s a musician. But she has some insights about life that are not exclusively disability-related. In particular, I found her formula for success to be an incredibly insightful look at talent and determination. Her hard-won insights on supporting a loved one through a life-changing event — based on what she found helpful and what she didn’t — may not be revolutionary, but they are told in a gentle and powerful way.

Mandy neither makes herself out to be a saint or a martyr, but as a woman who has made mistakes and chosen to learn from them. There are some portions of her book that some might find preachy (Mandy is a born-again Christian), but they are generally interwoven with her own lived experiences, adding to their tapestry rather than jutting out at odd angles.

Conclusion

I usually prefer longer books and getting to know characters and real people. But Sensing the Rhythm is a short tome that I’m glad I picked up. It’s not a literary masterpiece, but it can be as easy or as profound as you, the reader, make it out to be.

Much like all of us.

 

Black History Month Calls Us All to Be Leaders in Love and Equality

Easterseals President and CEO, Angela F. WilliamsFebruary is Black History Month and at this time I find myself reflecting on prolific leaders who have come before me. Teachings of the past shape our present. This is something I’ve always known, but it is a truth that holds more significance as I embark on a new journey as President and CEO of Easterseals. In particular, Martin Luther King, Jr.’s legacy has always held a special place in my heart and inspired how I lead.

Dr. King’s great dream of a vibrant, multiracial nation united in justice, peace and reconciliation included a place at the table for children of every race and ability. I believe we are called this Black History Month, not merely to honor and remember, but to celebrate the values of equality, tolerance and inclusivity he so compellingly expressed in his great dream for America.

Over the course of human history, we’ve seen pieces of that dream come into fruition — witnessed the power of collective human will for good. But we’ve also seen the destruction of individuals, families and entire communities as a result of intolerance and exclusivity.

As I read Dr. King’s writings, speeches and interviews, I am struck by his eloquence. I am struck by his power and passion to speak truth and life into a world that sometimes fails to acknowledge the worth and dignity of all people.

Dr. King called us to “all learn to live together as brothers or we will all perish together as fools. We are tied together in the single garment of destiny, caught in an inescapable network of mutuality.”

If this is true, at what point do we citizens in this society recognize that “a house divided cannot stand?”

Dr. King once said that we all have to decide whether we “will walk in the light of creative altruism or the darkness of destructive selfishness.” Life’s most persistent and nagging question, he said, is `what are you doing for others?’

This Black History Month, I want you to ask yourself these questions:

  • How do I show love to my neighbors who don’t look like me or are not in my sphere of influence?
  • How do I show love to my colleagues at work? To family members?
  • Am I love in action?

I believe that not only the course of history, but this very moment, can be shaped by acknowledgement and acceptance of your duties and responsibilities to be “love in action.” I have the audacity to believe that peoples everywhere, of all abilities, can have three meals a day for their bodies, education and culture for their minds, dignity, and equality – and that we all have a part in creating such a world.

Easterseals believes in this too. We believe all people should have the opportunity to reach their full potential and be their greatest self – just as Martin Luther King did. It is why we wake up every morning. We strive to be love in action. Will you join us?

Connect with Angela: LinkedIn | Twitter

 

9 Tips for Keeping the Romance Alive in a Relationship

Two years ago Alicia Krage wrote a guest post for our Easterseals national blog about some of the challenges and joys of being – and dating — someone who’s blind. She and Joe are still together, and I asked her if she’d be willing to write a post for Valentine’s Day with advice for others on how to keep a long relationship like theirs stay strong. Lucky for us, she said yes!

Ali and Joe.

Ali and Joe.

by Alicia Krage

In the spirit of Valentine’s Day, I’m writing a post that focuses less on my disability and more on the foundation of the relationship that my boyfriend Joe and I have built. Joe and I have been together nearly three years now, and I’ve learned a lot of things during that time.

As it goes with any relationship, we’ve had our ups, downs, and obstacles. And we’ve had to make compromises. Over the years I’ve used what I’d learned from previous relationships to strengthen this one. Some of the things I learned were simple, some were difficult, and today I hope my nine tips might help readers who are in a longer relationship keep it going:

  1. Prioritize and make time for each other. You’d be amazed at how little time Joe and I get with each other sometimes. There have been plenty of days when we were both so busy that the only time we saw each other was when we had dinner together at the dining hall for about 30 minutes. After that, it was back to schoolwork. Once things calmed down, we used our next free day to do a date night. Dinner, a movie, or sometimes we’d just have our own game nights here in the dorm. The goal is always the same: quality time together.
  2. Remember that while you are partners, you are also friends. Having known Joe for seven years now, it’s weird to picture a time when he wasn’t in my life. Something that has always been a comfort to me is that we were best friends first. Date nights are fun, keeping the romance alive is important, but I also think it’s important to remember that you’re also friends. I love those moments that remind me that he’s honestly and truly my best friend in the entire world, and there’s nothing I can’t tell him. Heart to hearts at 1am will always be one of my favorite things to share with Joe.
  3. Relationships are not always sunshine and rainbows. Relationships are hard and they take work. I’m usually the type of person that wants to solve things as soon as possible when we’re in a fight — I really hate going to sleep sad or angry. But sometimes it happens. Taking time to breathe, to calm down, and wait until you’ve worked out what you want to say before talking things over (without shouting) is much more effective than trying to solve it ASAP when your words aren’t coming out right.
  4. Communication is key. Since we are both blind, I feel like this is even more important. We can’t look at the other person’s face right after we’ve said something to see their reaction, to know if they’re offended, or if something’s just not okay and they’re having a bad day. We need to communicate these things, because otherwise we literally have no way to know.
  5. Encourage one another during new or challenging experiences. Joe and I have gone to a lot of new places — some local, some not — and it’s nice when one person is more encouraging and has a positive attitude about it. Whenever Joe has an idea of going somewhere or doing something new (the first time we went to the movies, for example) I’m always a bit nervous and instantly start worrying about what will go wrong. Joe always says the same thing: “We’ll figure it out.” I can hear the smile in his voice when he says this, and it’s all the assurance I need. There will be obstacles, but we’ll figure them out as we go.
  6. Don’t just be comfortable with one another and slip into the same day-to-day routine. Surprise one another with things. Occasionally, when I’m picking up a cup of coffee for myself from Dunkin Donuts, I’ll grab a hot chocolate for Joe on the way out. Sometimes Joe comes back to the dorms with Culver’s custard for me. It’s nice to know that while you’re off doing your own thing, someone else is thinking about you.
  7. Balance is key. You can have your own life and your own friends, and you should also want time to yourself. You should unapologetically want that extra space. Sundays are typically that day for me – homework at a coffee shop in the morning, relaxing in the afternoon, and then we usually meet up later in the evening for dinner at the dining hall. We need time to ourselves. Time to ourselves is important.
  8. Be spontaneous. Don’t go to the same places all the time – try something new. One morning Joe and I went to a bagel shop that I discovered online — I’d read good reviews about it on Yelp. Now we go there on Saturdays. Not every Saturday, but on Saturdays when time allows.
  9. Bring back some memories sometimes. Joe and I have had a lot of time together, and it’s nice to take a trip down memory lane. I still remember the precise day we had our first date (March 28, 2015) and where it was (IHOP). Now, every year on that same day, we have dinner at IHOP just like we did that night. Of course it’s different now, but it’s nice to go somewhere that brings back memories and takes us back to where it all began.

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The Nora Project Connects Students With and Without Disabilities

My Seeing Eye dogs and I have visited dozens of elementary schools over the years that pair average kids with students who have disabilities in “buddy” programs. The school Whitney and I are visiting today takes that idea one step further.

At Glen Grove Elementary in Glenview, Illinois, students are paired with a fellow student who has a disability, but then these fifth-graders interview family members and others who spend time outside of school with their “buddy,” too. The students use iPads to record video of those interviews, and by combining them with video of their own interactions with their buddies, they create documentaries presented at the end of the school year.

The idea is the brain child of Glen Grove fifth-grade teacher Amanda Martinsen, who was awarded a Human and Civil Rights Award from the Illinois Education Association for a project the IEA described as “life-changing for students with conditions that sometimes make it difficult for them to connect with others.” A story from the Chicago Tribune explains:

“The Nora Project grew out of Martinsen’s concern that students like her cousin’s daughter who have Down syndrome, cerebral palsy, autism and a host of other medical conditions often experience difficulty making connections and friendships with other students in school.

Martinsen said she agreed that the project has been “life-changing” for many students, but not just those with special needs.

‘The change we’ve seen from students is they’re so much more aware of kids with special needs that are different from them,’ she said. ‘They are so much more accepting.’

One student said she had heard the term Down syndrome, but didn’t know what it was, Martinsen said.

‘She said she never thought she would have been friends with someone with Down syndrome, and now she is,’ she said. ‘I see them interacting with many kids. They’re high-fiving each other, asking how their day is.'”

As for me, I’ve been asked to come to Glen Grove Wednesday to share tips on using respectful language and appropriate questions during the interviews they’ll be doing with their buddy’s family members and friends. I’ll tell you one thing: I’m pretty sure I’ll learn more from these fifth graders and their buddies than they will from me!

Mrs. Martinsen’s award-winning project is named for her niece, Nora. To learn more about the Nora Project, visit thenoraproject.ngo. Documentaries produced by the students are available there under the Nora Friends tab.

 

The Impact of Stricter Guidelines on Service Dogs

Today’s guest blogger Bryana Peters studies animal science at the University of Illinois Urbana-Champaign. After graduate school, Bryana hopes to train service dogs, especially diabetic alert dogs like her own Labrador Retriever Leanna.

Bryana and Leana standing in front of a harbor

Leanna (left) and Bryana (right)

by Bryana Peters

If you were to take a screenshot of me right at this moment, I look entirely able-bodied. What the picture fails to represent is my pancreas failing me, my severe knee pain from a chronic pain disorder, my back aching from two bulging discs, and my left ankle swelling in my boot from complex regional pain syndrome, a disorder of the nervous system.

Many of my friends and peers are simply unaware of how difficult it is to exist with all of these disabilities. I have been in and out of hospitals since birth, had major back surgery when I was 16, and I experience a wide array of pain while presenting a picture of youth and happiness to the world.

Last year in June I started working with a service dog. Trained by Power Paws Assistance Dogs in Arizona, Leanna is primarily my diabetic alert dog, but she does light mobility work for me, too.

Working with a service dog has changed my life. She is my greatest asset when it comes to managing my multiple disabilities. She gives me much more independence and a sense of safety.

But here’s the problem: because I look able-bodied, I am often asked an assortment of borderline intrusive questions. Some examples:

  • Who are you training her for?
  • What’s wrong with you?
  • Well, why do you need the dog?

Having Leanna by my side has presented a unique set of complications, no matter our situations. Many assume I am faking it, regardless of how well Leanna is behaving. Gaining access to many locations, including airports, for example, is met with skepticism. I am allowed to enter, albeit begrudgingly, once I explain the law. From there, I am stalked with peering eyes looking for any chance of a mistake – either on my own part, or on Leanna’s doing.

Leanna asleep on a plane, tucked tight at Bryana's feetSo it is absolutely exasperating for me to see other individuals with small dogs barely in a heel, barking at my service dog as we walk into a movie theater. On a plane, Leanna is in a tight tuck at my feet (left), sleeping, while a dog wearing a service dog vest jumps on people and begs them for food. Later, I hear barks and whines from their general direction.

I fight hard to teach the general public about service dogs and all the incredible work they can do, yet it is often an uphill battle. People who believe that their pet needs to be by their side at all times jeopardize my own and Leanna’s health and well-being. Many assume bringing a pet into a store or faking disabilities is a victimless crime. That could not be further from the truth.

Those of us in the service dog bubble have heard about Delta Airlines new stricter rules concerning Emotional Support Animals and service dogs boarding their planes. Essentially, Delta grew tired of passengers presenting untrained pets as service animals, and now they’re cracking down. I understand their frustration — it is one I share with them wholeheartedly.

Those who are blessed enough to receive a service dog to assist us to navigate our unconventional worlds have yet more mountains to climb due to others selfishness. Leanna and I are just starting our adventure together. I can only hope that those of us with real service dogs can reach a clear understanding with those who do not have them as to what the laws and expectations are. I am grateful to be able to pilot this world with four paws by my side.

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An Accessible Way to Watch Super Bowl LII

A football on a football fieldI’m not much of a football fan. I am, however, a huge fan of new assistive technology, especially when you can try it out for free. So that’s why I’m going to attend AIRA’S Virtual Super Bowl party this Sunday

Aira calls itself a “visual interpreter for the blind,” and on Sunday Greg Stilson, a football fan who is blind will be at the game in Minneapolis sporting wearable smart glasses with an embedded video camera. Trained and certified AIRA agents who aren’t even at the game will use smartphone and portable WiFi hotspot technology to describe what’s in front of Greg remotely in real-time. Here’s how the AIRA web site describes it:

The trained agents see the world through the smart glass worn by the customer and describe the view. They respond to requests for information from the user, working at a specially-designed dashboard that efficiently connects to information via the video camera, GPS, and other sources of data.

Usually you need to subscribe to AIRA to connect with their trained sighted guides to have them describe stuff for you through their special glasses, but You don’t need to be an Aira subscriber to listen in this Sunday. Anyone can join the party starting at 6:00 p.m. ET by doing any of the following:

  1. Call 1-877-568-4108 and enter passcode 536-565-714
  2. Listen to the webcast
  3. Listen on YouTube
  4. Listen on Facebook Live.

If you want to let AIRA know about your Super Bowl experience, you can tweet them at @airaio on gameday using #airabowl.

 

What One Dad Learned From the ‘Welcome to Holland’ Poem

Guest blogger Keith Hammond is back! Keith is a manager at the adult day services program at Easterseals Serving Greater Cincinnati, and he’s the father of two children on the autism spectrum. He’s written a number of poignant posts for us before, and I’m delighted to have him back with another one.

by Keith Hammond

A father reading a child a book on a park benchMy wife and I have two children with autism. When you have children with a disability, this means many things. It almost certainly means you have friends, perhaps even family, who have children that are developing typically. The typically developing children are just what you expected to have, but don’t.

I meet many families who have a child who is just receiving an autism diagnosis. Having been new to the world of autism myself at one point, I know the natural tendency is to compare yourself and your children to your friends and their typically developing children. Sadness, depression and a deep feeling of loss are the natural results of these comparisons. You can sink into sorrow as if it were quicksand.

At some point, and maybe New Year’s is that starting point, you have to resolve not to compare yourself to others. Comparison is the thief of joy. Comparison steals the joy when your child accomplishes something positive, like a pickpocket grabs your wallet or purse. It only keeps you from fully appreciating the special things your child has to offer.

Let’s say your child with autism accomplishes something a decade after a typically developing child would have. Be proud and happy — your child worked that much harder for their achievement.

Obviously this is all very easy to say. Just as it’s easy to say your resolution is to lose weight, we all know people who say it and never lose a pound. I have no easy answers for anyone, but early on when my children were diagnosed, I remember someone sharing a poem with me written by Emily Perl Kingsley called Welcome to Holland. It’s a quick read, and a very poignant one, as well.

The poem compares having a typical child with having a child with a disability. The former is referred to as Italy, and the latter is Holland. You plan your whole life for a trip to Italy, and the plane lands and…you’re in Holland. And you live in Holland the rest of your life.

The learning of the poem is that if you just give Holland a chance, it’s a pretty neat place. They have tulips, they have windmills, and all sorts of fine and unique things that make Holland a special place. Likewise, your children have many unique characteristics and gifts that you can enjoy if you immerse yourself in them.

The poem acknowledges that losing Italy is still a loss. It’s the death of a dream, punctuated by your friends who constantly tell you how wonderful it is in Italy. I think at some point it helps to acknowledge you have suffered a loss, and some grief, even occasional grief, is to be expected. It helped me to know this is normal, and that this grief can be reactivated throughout your lifespan.

Right now on Facebook, I see friends of mine starting to have grandchildren. There is pain in the knowledge that grandparenting may not be my fate, though, hopefully, tinged with some joy for my friends. You don’t want to dwell excessively on these things, but some acknowledgement that it hurts a little isn’t such a bad thing, particularly if it helps you move on.

Another available comfort is that you’re not alone. Many families in your community face the same issues, perhaps worse than you do. Back in the day, the only time you’d run into these folks was at therapy appointments or support group meetings. Now, with social media and smart phones, you can stay in touch with kindred spirits as frequently as you like. There is strength in numbers and many times you can lift each other out of the pits of despair. That’s the cool part I’ve enjoyed about Holland: you meet a lot of nice people there, people you may have never met otherwise. Excuse me while I start up, “Heaven is a Place on Earth.”

More posts on disability and parenting from Keith:

 

Oh, the Places You Will Go:  Bridging the Gap Between Transportation and Youth Transition

by Judy L. Shanley, Ph.D.

A mentor and menteeIt is no secret that mentorship is important for young people. But only one in three youth in the United States currently has a mentor (Mentor, The National Mentoring Project). These numbers are even lower for youth with disabilities.

It is also no secret that mobility and transportation options are important  for youth to transition from high school to work, college, and the community. Yet little support (like mentorship) is provided to youth to enhance their engagement as decision-makers in transportation planning.

For this purpose, Easterseals, in cooperation with Partners for Youth with Disabilities, established the Transportation Advocacy and Mentoring Initiative (TAMI) project.

TAMI paired youth with disabilities from Massachusetts with  mentors from the MI PEAC Program. This mentorship program aimed to help youth with disabilities become active participants in planning and advocating for mobility and transportation services in their communities.

The mentoring pairs shared information about transportation options, barriers, solutions, and communication channels to influence transportation planning. The project also introduced youth with disabilities to careers in the transportation industry including mobility management.  Data collected before and after the participation of youth in TAMI indicated that mentoring positively influenced youth knowledge about mobility challenges and options and increased confidence in their ability to use their voices to influence transportation and mobility services.

Findings from TAMI and descriptions of the materials and strategies used will be shared in an upcoming national Webinar. Join us to learn how mentorship, transportation, and more can aid youth with disabilities in their transition into adulthood.

Leveraging Peer Mentoring Strategies to Increase Transportation Advocacy among Young Adults with Disabilities: Results from the Transportation Advocacy Mentoring Initiative

Thursday, February 15, 2018 from 2:00 PM to 3:00 PM (EST)

Register Here.

The Transportation Advocacy and Mentoring Initiative (TAMI)is supported through a grant from the Administration for Community Living and the Community Transportation Association of America. For more information about TAMI please contact Judy Shanley at 312-551-7227.

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